The role of the counsellor is to enable you to explore many aspects of your life and feelings, by talking openly, freely and safely.
Talking in such a way it is rarely possible with family or friends, who are likely to be emotionally involved and have opinions and biases that may be detrimental to the success of the counselling.
The counsellor gives the client an opportunity to express and manage difficult feelings such as anger, resentment, guilt and fear in a confidential environment. That expression can then lead to confidence and clarity.
The counsellor may encourage you to explore patterns in your life that you may have found challenging to face before. There may or may not be some exploration of early childhood experiences in order to throw some light on why you reacts or responds in certain ways in given situations.
This is often followed by considering ways in which you may choose to change – and choose new responses to familiar situations.